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The week deal


The monstrosity of sexual intercourse outside marriage is that those who indulge in it are trying to isolate one kind of union (the sexual) from all the other kinds of union which were intended to go along with it and make up the total union.

C.S. Lewis


 

1 Cor. 6:18; 1 Thes. 4:3; Heb. 13:4; Pr. 5:19 (within marriage)

 
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Posted by on June 19, 2012 in Ethics, The week deal

 

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Funny about Technology

10 Signs Your Life Is Getting out of Control

1. You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of three.

2. You call your son’s beeper to let him know it’s time to eat. He e-mails you back from his bedroom, “What’s for dinner?”

3. Your daughter sells Girl Scout Cookies via her Web site.

4. You chat several times a day with a stranger from South Africa, but you haven’t spoken with your next-door neighbor yet this year.

5. Your grandmother clogs up your e-mail inbox asking you to send her a JPEG file of your newborn so she can create a screen saver.

6. Your reason for not staying in touch with family is they do not have e-mail addresses.

7. You consider second-day air delivery painfully slow.

8. You hear most of your jokes via e-mail instead of in person.

9. You’re reading this.

10. Even worse, you’re going to forward it to someone else…

“I have much to write to you, but I do not want to use paper and ink. Instead, I hope to visit you and talk with you face to face, so that our joy may be complete.”(2 Jn. 12, NIV)

 

 

 
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Posted by on March 12, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Sense the nonsense

Emotional Language: Appeal to love/appeal to trust (argumentum ad amicitiam)

When interacting with people around we often have to face one specific formulation of a demand or request. Especially some of those in relationships and marriages have to deal with this almost regularly. While conflict is nearly inevitable situation which we sooner or later have to deal with, bringing up relationship or trust into it is only rarely a good way to do it.

When your partner disagrees with you and says something like this: “If you do not agree with me, you don’t love me” or “If you really trusted me, then you’d go along with me.” After this kind of request or statement you are put into a very bad position in which you are forced to choose between the two, but obviously there are other solutions. I can deeply love someone without agreeing with what he just said, can’t I? I can also have a general trust in my friend, while not following his lead for some other reasons. Moreover just because of our relationship I can disagree with my friend who is about to take his fourth drink, which would at this point be clearly too much for him.

Therefore it is not right to make demands based solely on a ground of feelings, for they are not by themselves based on a reasonable foundation. However we can surely decide to consent to them anyway, even if they are unreasonable,… but that is a completely different story :). What is important, is that we are aware of this and our own decisions are not merely manipulated by these unfair emotional appeals.

 
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Posted by on October 27, 2011 in Mission, Sense the nonsense

 

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